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AskEMME: DEAL BREAKER
Q: I have a friend who is incredibly selfish. She never asks me about my life or my feelings and seems only to want to talk about the shoes she just bought or the makeup colors for fall. She’s the kind of person who won’t chip in the extra few dollars to cover the check, even though she’s ordered the most expensive thing on the menu. I’d like to stop being her friend, but I don’t know how. What do I say to her?
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AskEMME: OH, BROTHER!
Q: My younger brother has found the car of his dreams, but he has bad credit and can’t afford it. He wants me to co-sign for the car and put the insurance in my name. I said no, but he’s been begging me constantly. Now he’s dragged our mother into it. They are making me feel like I’m obligated to bail him out because I am his “big sister.” I want to help him, but I am worried about how this will affect ...
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AskEMME: BACK IN THE PICTURE
Q: I just received a note from a woman who, up until about six months ago, was a good friend. I ended our relationship because I was tired of being hurt by her all the time- Martha would sometimes make nasty comments about my husband, job and the clothes I wore, and I always felt like, she was jealous of me. I admit that I didn’t end the friendship as maturely as I would have liked, but I also felt so tired- ...
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AskEMME: LIVIN’ SINGLE
Q: My divorce came through five years ago and I haven’t dated anyone seriously since. I’m sick and tired of being alone. I’ve tried meeting men through friends and even a dating service, but to no avail. I’m wondering if it’s the vibe I’m putting out there, but I’m at a loss of what it could be. I take care of my appearance, and I’m always smiling and trying to be friendly and open, but men aren’t responding. Do you have any advice for ...
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AskEMME: I DO?
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and we’re thinking about getting married. The problem is my family really doesn’t like him, and they’ve planted some serious doubts in my head. They see that he loves and respects me but feel that as a musician, he’s not ambitious enough. I earn considerably more money that he does, and it bothers my family that I basically support him, sometimes working extra shifts to do so. I admit that this ...
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AskEMME: SHE’S A WORKOUT MANIAC
Q: My sister has recently become a gym rat. She’s been working out so much that I’m afraid she’s become obsessed with it! She constantly talks about her workouts- like what kind of exercise she does, how long her sessions last, and so on. Now she’s trying to get me to join her gym, but I’m not really interested. I’m very proud of my sister because she seems happier and healthier than she ever did before. I don’t want to crush her ...
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AskEMME: CORNER OFFICE FRIEND
Q: I’ve shared a 10-year friendship with a woman who is very competitive. Even though she can be a lot of fun, she still seems obsessed with one-upping me. For example, she recently called to tell me about the wonderful view from her corner office and the assistant who brings her coffee. Then she asked me what kind of office I have and do I have an assistant? I dread her calls, and I’m thinking it would be easier if we ...
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AskEMME: BIOLOGICAL CLOCK
Q: My best friend is 37 years old and single. She is seriously considering having a baby on her own, via artificial insemination. She is afraid that if she doesn’t act now, she’ll never have the chance. I want to be happy for her because I think she’d be a great mother, but I believe kids should have their fathers around. I’m also concerned because my friend works as a freelance graphic artist and may not be financially ready to support a child. Should ...
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AskEMME: SIS DIS
Q: A few years ago, I dated a man who broke things off rather quickly. He began hanging out with my married sister, and they soon became joined at the hip. He was by her side the entire time she went through her divorce. Shortly after that, they began dating-but didn’t tell me about it for more than a year. I finally found out from someone else. When I recently confronted them, they denied they were a couple, but I know they were ...
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AskEMME: FAMILY TIES
Q: I am married to a Brazilian man, but we live in the United States. We have a three-year-old daughter, and my husband’s mother insists that I send our daughter to Brazil to live with her for the summer. I said no without even blinking, and now my husband says I’m alienating his mother. I barely know his family. Before I even consider my mother-in-law’s request, I will have to become intimately familiar with her. Am I wrong for saying no? How can ...
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